Life gets busy and it’s easy to get overwhelmed especially now that lazy days by the pool are being replaced with manic mornings getting the kids ready for school. But, for some moms, September is the silent savior they’ve been patiently waiting for. Instead of biting your nails with anxiety like you did in junior high, you now sigh with relief when you hear the words, “back to school.” It’s different for every mom depending on your lifestyle, work, and the age of your kids, but chances are, no matter what situation you’re in, you could use a little time for more self-care.
Fall is a great time to practice positive habits and daily rituals that give us the zest for life we crave and deserve. It’s important to stop and be mindful of what’s going on in our day to day and develop an awareness. In order to spend more time doing the things you love and less time being overwhelmed, you have to know what causes unhealthy stress and what makes you feel happy and fulfilled.
A few months ago, I hosted a Mother’s Day fundraiser brunch for first grade moms at my son’s school where we talked about work- life balance and the ongoing juggle struggle between kids and self-care. As part of a fun exercise, I had each mom write a letter to themselves with a summer goal (all self-care related) and I collected them all up to send back at the end of August. I partnered with Gladly Designs to create some pretty note cards the moms could use to jot down their personal goals. This could include anything from restorative yoga to MNO happy hour.
I decided that this summer, I would commit to some “me” time since it is so hard to find time to yourself when the kids are out of school. I made a plan to meet regularly with my health coach, try out a new yoga class (I love the quiet zen time!), float in a float tank, and get at least one facial for some much needed pampering and relaxation.
This exercise was challenging for some of the moms since it had been a while since they had the time to do something for themselves. Moments of downtime for busy moms are few and far between so, it’s tempting to take those rare hours of solitude to get ahead on work and cross off other housekeeping to-do’s. Rarely does float tank session make the list. As summer comes to an end, it’s important to prioritize health and well-being in order to feel restored and revitalized for the beginning of a new season.
Putting the ‘self’ back in self-care
Self-care is word that’s often overused nowadays with it being such a trendy topic on social media. Remember, self-care is about doing what’s right for you. Sometimes self-care can be as simple as quieting your mind for a few minutes with a glass of wine away from the hustle and bustle of everyday life. It doesn’t necessarily have to involve a high-energy fitness activity or stressing out over a complicated vegan recipe you found on Pinterest. For me, journaling is a quick and easy way to find some peace. I like to reflect on my day and write down what I’m grateful for and looking forward to in the coming weeks and months. If your self-care routine ends up feeling more like a chore, it’s not fulfilling its purpose. Find activities that make you feel good!
Mom to mom: a few self-care routines to add to your autumn bucket list
As a working mom with a hectic schedule, I’m here to suggest some self-care activities that won’t leave you feeling even more exhausted than before you started them! Find some calm in your busy life and embrace Fall with open arms as a new and refreshed you!
Try a meditation app or podcast
Meditation can do wonders for the brain and soul. It’s no easy task to empty the mind completely, but once you get into a flow, you’ll find just how restorative it can be. Apps like Rituals and Headspace are great for those of us with things to do and places to be. Simply pop in some headphones during your morning walks or even on your commute for a guided, easy to follow stress-free session. For those who struggle with meditation, opt for a new audiobook or binge-worthy, inspirational podcast. I love listening to Goal Digger, How I Built This, and The Influencer Podcast while I’m working out, taking a walk, tidying up the house or driving in the car. For busy bookworms, I recommend Girl Wash Your Face by Rachel Hollis.
Wake up earlier than the kids to do something you love!
I’m not suggesting that you wake up at the crack of dawn to get work done or get in that mile run before the sun comes up. Wake up a little bit earlier so that you have some time to yourself to simply ‘be.’ Sit in bed with some morning coffee, make a delicious breakfast or flip through the pages of St Louis magazines you never have time to read. Take a brisk walk as the weather gets chillier and enjoy the quiet morning calm before the storm.
Take a mini vacay with friends
Now, this one might be a bit harder to do with kids and busy schedules, but I highly recommend doing this at least once a year! Plan a mini solo vacay or getaway with friends over a weekend where you can decompress and indulge in a little R&R. It can also be incredibly empowering to go solo and do things your own way. You call the shots, you create the itinerary. You don’t have to travel too far either! Make it a staycation by staying local. Plan a spa weekend, an outdoor adventure or simply a couple nights in nice hotel with room service and a kid-free evening to enjoy a Netflix binge-a-thon. I recently took a little weekend trip to Ameristar with one of my girlfriends where we lounged by their luxurious pool and relaxed at the spa.
Try something new
I always look forward to new things I have not experienced before! Experiencing new things is a major thrill for me. Try something unique and unforgettable like a trapeze exercise class, sipping on a new drink from a coffee shop you’ve never been to or detoxing in an infrared sauna.
In a world where we’re always “on”, it can be difficult to slow down and just breathe. Add kids, work and other adult responsibilities to the mix and we’re left with very little time to focus on ourselves, but holding yourself accountable and making a real commitment to self-care will prove worth it in the long run. What commitments will you make this Fall?